How To Get Kids To Listen To You

By Carolyn Long

Children don't always hear what you have to say, and this can be extremely frustrating for the average parents. However, one has to realize that they are not ignoring you on purpose. They are developing and they are adapting to their surroundings. Parents have to treat them as a child and learn more about how to get kids to listen.

Of course, this can be difficult when you are calling your child for dinner or you are trying to talk to them and they are busy in their own world. A lot of parents naturally become impatient and start to raise their voice. This is not very helpful because it can lead to a lot of conflict in the home. Some children become fearful of the parents.

When they are busy with something, such as an art project, they become completely engaged in it. They forget about what is going on within the home environment. They switch off to everything else, and parents don't always realize this. It is important for parents to connect with their child gently and make sure that they are listening before they actually start talking to them.

If you do raise your voice when they are focusing with something else, they may still not hear what you are saying. It is not helpful for them or for you. It will create a lot of chaos in the home not only for you, but also for the entire family. You may create a rift between you and the child. The child may also become fearful of you, and this is something that you obviously don't want.

The brain is developing at this time and this is something that you have to keep in mind. You can't overwhelm your child by talking to them, using a lot of words or using your words in such a way that they are not going to understand. You need to get down to their level. Use their language. They can only take in so much at this stage of their lives.

There should be no control or power in the relationship because this will also create fear. Kids will start to listen to the adult, but it is not the right way to go about it. It will weaken the bond and they will grow up with psychological issues. They may find that that fear creeps in when they are exposed to authority figures in their life.

Of course, there are also kids who have a tough time listening in general because of something like autism. When they are busy with something that are completely focused, and you may not even be able to distract them. Parents need to learn how to talk to a child like this. It is not easy and you may become impatient at time, so this is something you have to keep under control.

When you have something like autism, for example, you may not be able to hear anything from the outside world. You are so focused on what you are doing that your social skills take a back seat. Parents need to patient. They need to be able to sit with their child and communicate gently with them. It is also important not to repeat because it won't help.

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